Updated: Aug 20, 2021
I remember being in the grind. I wanted out, but I didn’t know how. It seemed I had no time to think. I would work a full day, throw dinner together for the kids, get them to bed, and after that I felt like I should be figuring out my purpose in that small window of time. The only issue was I was exhausted and unmotivated by then. Eventually I decided I will no longer accept this life of stress and chaos, and I figured it out. I began listening to my intuition and taking small steps, which later turned into giant leaps.
If you can relate to this in some way and are searching for more meaning in your life, here are some tips for aligning with your purpose.
Get out of your head. Everyone who spends time thinking about their purpose never comes up with anything, and there’s a good reason for this. When we’re thinking in this way, we’re using our right brain, which is logical and process-oriented. Most of us are heavily right brain skewed and stuck in routine, and it’s impossible to be open to new ideas from this place. This way of thinking blocks us from inspiration. When we are doing things we enjoy, it moves us into the left brain, which is where we find creativity and open ourselves up to be inspired. Don’t be surprised if an idea pops in your head while you’re doing creative projects and things you enjoy, but don’t expect it. The point is to be in the moment and truly enjoy yourself. The path is the purpose, so attaching yourself to the outcome creates limitations. More specific recommendations for this are detailed later in the list.
Maintain a positive mindset. Incorporate small changes to make adjustments in your mood when you are feeling negative emotions. For example, listen to a 5-minute self love meditation, read a self help book, journal about your dream day, listen to a positive podcast. From this space, it’s much easier to intuit your passion and the things that bring you joy in life.
Make a list of everything you DON’T want. These are your boundaries. Don’t compromise. This is your space to create exactly what you want without limitation. Think through the work environment, salary, schedule, hours per week, coworkers, etc.
Find your inner child who loves to play. Make a list of everything you currently or have ever enjoyed doing, from childhood to adulthood. What do you do just for fun, and for no other reason? This may be drawing, watching the stars, playing the guitar, riding your bike, baking, gardening, or maybe even playing hide and seek! Pick something on your list to do at least a couple times a week.
Start a class or hobby. It might feel like you don’t have time or money, but when you’re aligning with your purpose, where there’s a will, there’s a way. Trust that, and believe you deserve it. You probably have something in mind you have wanted to do or learn, but you haven’t yet. No matter how obscure or useless it seems, go for it. Sign up for the pottery class or buy the painting supplies you’ve been thinking about. If you aren’t sure what it is you want to do, ask the universe for assistance. Then, pay attention to ideas that evoke your curiosity. They may pop in your head, come up in conversation, or maybe you suddenly see something that interests you. Listen to your intuition, and go for it.
Heal your limiting beliefs. Before moving on to new things in your life, it’s important to address what got you to the place where you are today if you are feeling unhappy with your work life. This is due to limited belief systems that block the flow of abundance. For example, perhaps you find yourself working long hours, and this is due to a limiting belief that your worth is defined by how hard you work. This needs to be healed, or else you’ll end up working just as hard in whatever opportunity arises next.
Practice patience. The universe works in mysterious ways, and the path is not linear. You may start a hobby to realize the only reason you were meant to do it was to meet someone in the class, who leads you to something else. Everything you do when you follow your heart is helping you in more ways than you can imagine. Trust and be ready for big changes.
My goal is to help others live meaningful lives and align with their purpose. To go deeper with healing and finding your purpose, I offer Reiki attunements and virtual Inner Power sessions. Through these offerings, I help you strengthen and listen to your intuition to provide clarity on your direction. Visit the Services page to learn more.